What is pretty privilege? Model Emily Adonna shares the ‘disadvantages of being pretty’

A model and business owner who’s been told she’s ‘beautiful’ all her life has opened up about the ‘disadvantages of being pretty’.

Emily Adonna, who lives in California, inadvertently caused a stir online after speaking out about a serious experience.

In a series of TikTok videos, Emily claims she was sexually assaulted by a stranger and says people haven’t taken her seriously in the past.

“Pretty privilege is one thing, I’m not here to deny it, but it does have its downsides,” he said.

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Emily Adonna, who lives in California, (pictured) says she’s ‘sick of being pretty’ because of the ‘disadvantages’ of pretty privilege. In a series of TikTok videos, Emily claims she was sexually assaulted by a stranger and says people haven’t taken her seriously in the past.

‘I have never been in a job where I have not been harassed. I have rarely been in social situations where I have not been harassed,” Emily says.

People don’t usually take “no” for an answer with me, because they think I’m something to own.

“People don’t ask before touching me in public, I get grabbed regularly, I was assaulted by a stranger.”

Emily claims that she once passed up a business opportunity because others believed she was “too young and beautiful” and thought it would “distract other people in the industry.”

‘I have never been in a job where I have not been harassed. I have rarely been in social situations where I have not been bullied. People don’t usually take ‘no’ for an answer with me, because they think I’m something to be possessed,” Emily says.

Emily said that she has also noticed a difference in how others treat her when she is dressed up compared to when she is wearing casual clothes.

“I’m treated differently, and it’s day and night, since I go out in public in a mask and oversized ratty old clothes, and I look like I am now,” she said.

‘When I look ragged, people don’t touch me, they don’t feel entitled to me.’

In a follow-up video, Emily says that often when she talks about negative experiences, she asks him questions like “what were you wearing?”, “were you being too nice?” and ‘why were you alone?’

“It’s the idea that because I’m present and I’m pretty, there’s a sense of entitlement to that space, or that I’m automatically associated with something sexual, that’s the part I don’t like,” she said.

“People say ‘Well, you’re a model, so you should be used to the attention or you should want this attention.’ That’s why you do it, right?’, no.’

In a third video, Emily admitted that she’s “tired of being pretty” so much so that she decided to get a rose ring and hand tattoo that was “culturally designed to destroy beauty.”

Emily said that she has also noticed a difference in how others treat her when she is dressed up compared to when she is wearing casual clothes. “I’m treated differently, and it’s day and night, since I go out in public in a mask and oversized ratty old clothes, and I look like I am now,” she said.

The initial video has been viewed more than 279,000 times and the topic seemed to divide opinion.

Girls who are not pretty by social standards are also harassed in most social and professional situations. not quite a privileged side effect,’ wrote one person.

‘Why do pretty women think that only pretty women get assaulted?’ another commented.

But a third woman defended Emily, writing: ‘So many enemies here. They only hate you because you’re pretty; they are partially proving your point without even realizing it.’

Another said: “Con: Everyone doesn’t take your pain seriously because you’re pretty so it’s ‘not that bad’ and they don’t really care out of jealousy.”

‘Valid – every person has problems. Everyone deserves to be heard without comparison,” another woman added.

If you need help available in Australia, call the National Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault Advice Service 24-hour helpline on 1800 737 732.